"Affinity groups" is a great way to put it. I'm volunteering this weekend at the Texas Book Festival and if I make new friends from that experience, it's A-OK with me. :-D
I think one important way to sustain friendships is by taking initiatives ourselves, to establish contact and reach out to our friends.
Many adults are so consumed by their work and careers, such that they don't have much time for such meet-ups and to reconnect with old friends. Therefore, instead of expecting our friends to initiate contact or plan a get-together event, we ourselves should try to take the initiative do so.
That being said, we should only do so if we genuinely do feel like reconnecting with our friends....and only if those friends in return do genuinely want to meet up and spend time with us. If there's no reciprocation from our friends in terms of genuine interest and eagerness, then we shouldn't continue to pursue such meet-ups and events.
Absolutely! Initiative is the best way to maintain friendships. I am trying to be better about that.
And I also agree it's good to look for reciprocity in friendships. It's easiest to be friends with people who also want to be friends!
One of my biggest problems is I keep forgetting about people if they're not regularly on my calendar. Still need to think about a way to troubleshoot that issue...
"Affinity groups" is a great way to put it. I'm volunteering this weekend at the Texas Book Festival and if I make new friends from that experience, it's A-OK with me. :-D
That’s great! Have so much fun :-) it’s always nice when friendship interests are aligned!
I think one important way to sustain friendships is by taking initiatives ourselves, to establish contact and reach out to our friends.
Many adults are so consumed by their work and careers, such that they don't have much time for such meet-ups and to reconnect with old friends. Therefore, instead of expecting our friends to initiate contact or plan a get-together event, we ourselves should try to take the initiative do so.
That being said, we should only do so if we genuinely do feel like reconnecting with our friends....and only if those friends in return do genuinely want to meet up and spend time with us. If there's no reciprocation from our friends in terms of genuine interest and eagerness, then we shouldn't continue to pursue such meet-ups and events.
Absolutely! Initiative is the best way to maintain friendships. I am trying to be better about that.
And I also agree it's good to look for reciprocity in friendships. It's easiest to be friends with people who also want to be friends!
One of my biggest problems is I keep forgetting about people if they're not regularly on my calendar. Still need to think about a way to troubleshoot that issue...